I’m a fan of Byron Katie. She has a process about thoughts called “The Work”, have you heard of it? It’s an amazing process of moving forward beyond stories and thoughts we believe. Here’s a little bit about Byron Katie and her process.
In February 1986, while in a halfway house for women with eating disorders, Byron Katie experienced a life-changing realization: “I discovered that when I believed my thoughts, I suffered, but that when I didn’t believe them, I didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Freedom is as simple as that. I found that suffering is optional. I found a joy within me that has never disappeared, not for a single moment.” Byron Katie calls her method of self-inquiry “The Work.” She has taught it to people all over the world, at free public events, in prisons, hospitals, churches, corporations, shelters for survivors of domestic violence, universities and schools, at weekend intensives, and at her nine-day School for The Work.
The Work is a way of identifying and questioning any stressful thought. It consists of four questions and a turnaround. This is a way of experiencing the opposite of what you believe.
The four questions are:
1) Is it true?
2) Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
3) How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought? and
4) Who would you be without the thought? The turnaround involves considering the thought in a reversed form–changing subject and object, changing yes and no, or changing it to be self-referential. For example, for the thought “My husband should treat me better,” turnarounds could include “I should treat my husband better,” “I should treat myself better,” or “My husband shouldn’t treat me better.”
I encourage you to visit this resource: TheWork.com